Listen Up, Ladies

Ladies, we’ve all been there. I know you all have a similar story… Summer is approaching and you start clearing out your closet. You discover those old clothes you continue to hold on to just in case one day you’ll fit into them again. They looked good when you were 16, right? And so it begins again, just like every year, you tell yourself “Maybe they’ll look good this time.” You’ve changed, you have a career (or job), you ran that 5K, you went to the box every week this year, and you don’t survive off of fried foods anymore (at least you’ve drastically cut it down). Then that voice chimes in, that voice that somehow removes all logic from your actions, “I can just try them real quick, and who cares if they don’t fit. I won’t affect me at all, I’m a rational adult!”

And so it begins… you step into those pants/shorts, or slide that top over your head. They don’t fit, what a shock! Those pants that use to slide so perfectly on and now can’t get passed that derrière that you worked so hard to build. You’re going to pull a straight Hulk move if you move your arms at all because your shoulders have developed to the point where you can link pull ups and put 100 pounds over your head. The pants or top is thrown to the ground and you immediately revert to that horrible attitude. Instead of recognizing how strong you’ve become, you begin to try to rationalize why you got so “big” and why you aren’t the size you use to be. What’s next? Usually stepping on the scale. Why not crush yourself with more self-hatred? Ladies, we have to stop criticizing ourselves so much!

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Women are by far the most harsh about the female body, especially of their own. Media seems to have won this battle over the years: even though we are learning to love our new bodies, those images of what a female body should be is constantly portrayed across all media. It’s incredible how much the media can influence how we feel about ourselves. It gets placed in our subconscious and when life is affecting us we forget those hours at the box we’ve spent working so hard and earning every inch of ourselves. We start nitpicking pieces of ourselves… if only my butt were smaller, my thighs were thinner, my stomach was slimmer, etc. If only. If only what? Honestly, have you ever asked yourself that? What exactly would change if you were “thinner”? Would you even recognize it or would you find some other imperfection?

It’s a vicious cycle; let me tell you, I’ve been there. I use to do hours of cardio and eat the fewest amounts of calories I could each day just to weigh a certain amount and to fit in a certain size jeans. The result? I was tired, weak, and unhappy with myself more than I ever was at a heavier weight. Did I get a better job? Better boyfriend? Did life finally fall in to place like it was suppose to? Not even close.

Looking at the women at our box, I am more impressed with the personal bests and goals crushed every day. I see a group of successful, intelligent, beautiful, strong, and inspiring women. When you hear your classmates talking about themselves negatively or asking “why don’t I look like her?” remind them of how beautiful they are. Remind them that we’re the women changing the perception of beauty. It starts with us. We’re all adults, we have more important things to use our mental energy on; self-loathing should not be one of them. Imagine if you refocused that energy into your relationship, job, friends, a book, anything. Imagine the change that would come of it.

Just remember, as you get stronger you build muscle. Will you ever look like “Arnold”? Not unless you do steroids. But will you go up a few pounds and maybe a size in jeans? Yes, that’s a definite possibility, but remember the blood, sweat, and tears behind that incredible body you’ve built yourself. That’s yours to claim and no one else can take credit. Your body is a representation of your dedication, strength, and perseverance. Never let a scale or a pair of jeans define your worth. It’s what your body can do, not what your body looks like.

Check out this blog from Crossfit Invictus. And don’t forget: Smile often, it’s contagious. 🙂

-can drop and reset. You do not need to keep your hands on the bar.

Toes to Bar
Overhead Squats (95,65)

Level 2 -(75,50)
Level 1 –(55,35) 20,15,10


Focus: Lower Body


  • Chelsea

    04/10/2014 @ 2:53 am

    Awesome post Tracy! I’m with Shelby, I always feel too skinny. I WANT those muscles!!!
    Worked up to 65# for snatch.
    13:00 WOD with 65#/K2E
    Tried RX, but couldn’t get TTB consecutively!

  • EmPorter

    04/10/2014 @ 1:03 am

    Great post Tracy! I can certainly speak to the “hulk arms,” unless a shirt is stretchy I can’t move my arms freely! Someone should start making clothes for the muscular body types so that I don’t have to wear spandex all day to be comfortable.

  • Mike Quigley

    04/09/2014 @ 3:53 pm

    145 x 3, then dropped down for two sets at 135 because my form is jacked.
    Great post Tracy.
    And I’m pretty sure Nick D needed to hear this after his hour spent in an ill-fitting Michigan dress recently – guy hasn’t been the same since.

  • Petra

    04/09/2014 @ 3:43 pm

    Great post, Tracy! I think we should all learn to be comfortable in (and love) our bodies, big or small!
    Snatch: 65# worked on form with Kara
    WOD: 8:50 RX TTB have been showing up lately!

  • amy

    04/09/2014 @ 3:09 pm

    Great post Tracy!! You gotta love that skin you’re in.

  • Crowley

    04/09/2014 @ 2:40 pm

    snatch: 135, attempted 155 twice and missed the 3rd rep both times
    wod: 6:15rx
    cash-out: done
    hit the toaster and the pain cave after for some post-wod mobility

  • Darcie Bernier

    04/09/2014 @ 2:39 pm

    Awesome post Tracy!!! This is one of the many reasons I love this community. 🙂

  • Kara

    04/09/2014 @ 2:32 pm

    65# worked on technique with tips from Haley.
    Wod:11:00 RX

    Great post, Tracy! Be proud of your muscles, girls!

  • Rob Hassell

    04/09/2014 @ 1:32 pm

    9:01 Rx

  • Jason

    04/09/2014 @ 1:00 pm

    145×3 *10# PR).. thanks Berretta for the help!
    Cashout done
    Post WOD strength session also done with other HTKers, done

  • Marc Piccuirro

    04/09/2014 @ 12:51 pm

    165×3 is a 10# PR
    Cashout, done
    Post workout strength session with those who are trying to become harder to kill, done

    • JBo

      04/09/2014 @ 2:07 pm

      Marc–you’ve been putting up some ridiculous times lately. Very nicely done…and keep up the awesome work, buddy!

      • Marc Piccuirro

        04/09/2014 @ 7:20 pm

        Thanks, JBo!
        And thanks for welcoming me to the afternoon crew

  • Dale

    04/09/2014 @ 2:06 am

    Nice article Tracey! Although I am not a lady, I enjoyed reading your article

    • amy

      04/09/2014 @ 3:08 pm

      A little bit of a lady sometimes……;)

      • Dale

        04/09/2014 @ 6:25 pm

        That’s just mean

        • amy

          04/09/2014 @ 6:44 pm

          I am just teasing you Beef!!

        • Tracy

          04/09/2014 @ 10:42 pm

          Lol you’d be one beastly lady that’s for sure

  • Shelby

    04/09/2014 @ 1:32 am

    And then there’s some of us who self loathe because after a year we are still small

    • Shelby

      04/09/2014 @ 1:36 am

      Gotta get them big thighs!

      • alden

        04/09/2014 @ 2:13 pm

        Shelby, you’re a foot taller than me….haha

        • Shelby

          04/09/2014 @ 2:53 pm

          HAHA! Wrong Shelby, Alden 🙂 [There are 3 in the gym] And my thighs are plenty big.

          • Shelby

            04/10/2014 @ 12:31 am

            Lol this Shelby is 5″7 .. Still a foot taller? And I’m still working on making my jeans tighter put them on today and still fit a little loose #fail #strongbutsmall

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